This gobal village, as our world is now called , has changed our outlook in many ways. Electronic communications have altered the way we relate to the world,to families and friends, and to each other. Many cultural traditions have changed and been replaced by new ones, new values. Many muslims from Pakistan (and elsewhere) live abroad. Their own, and their parents desire to arrange a marriage with someone "backhome" is a way to keep the traditions of faith and culture alive. Many families in Pakistan are receiving rishtas for their marriageable daughters from abroad.

Often the young men (potential grooms) have been in the USA, or elsewhere, for several years and their family and friends in Pakistan may not know them very well anymore.Does he still adhere to the practices of our faith and culture? How can we get an accurate idea about the man who will become our son-in law? The first half of this booklet has been written for parents who make decisions about their daughters lives and for the most women affected by such decisions. It is a small step towards
informing women and parents about how to decide on such a rishta.

The second half is for women who are being abused: to help them identify domestic violence and seek assistance .It is for parents to be supportive and not feel helpless. It is for every one to understand that abuse is never justified or deserved; that a battered women's cry for help, brings dishonour to the family. The entire work is written in the spirt of hope and protection, out of a deep understanding of parental duties , and a strong conviction of women's rights to respect and dignity in marriage.It is dedicated to all of us who strive to create a just and peaceful world.